Goal Planning

It is hard to know where you are going and how to get there if you don’t know where you want to be and don’t know where you are.
 
 
Where Are you?

For many people, one of the hardest things when setting a goal is to be honest about where you are.

Are you really only 10 pounds overweight? Or do you see that you are 10 pounds overweight and you are really 10 pounds underweight? Do you really get 60 minutes of aerobic activity per day or do you slide saying gardening and/or golfing is an aerobic workout?

Are you really happy in your job? Is there lots of things you like about it? The fact that you are done every day at 5 and don’t bring work home? Like, the regular paycheck that allows you to plan and budget? Or do you just tell yourself you are happy?

Do you make up BS excuses to not tackle something you want to do to? My wife/husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/parents won’t let me? Not enough time?

Or looking for the bad in something to give you the excuse to run away from it? For example, being scared of relationships so looking for anything to give you the reasons to escape.

Where are you really? What is the truth of your situation? If you can’t face the truth of your situation, you won’t be able to make a good plan to change it.

Some different ways you can get to the truth are:

  • Journalling
  • Talking with a close friend (this is very usefully because friends may have a better perspective)
  • Talking to a therapist
  • Talk to someone who has done what you are trying to do and ask them where they think you are
  • Speaking to other people involved in the goal (for example, a relationship that you may always run from, talk to the person instead of running right away)
  • Meditation
  • Pacing while listening to music (this is one I enjoy a lot)
  • A hike, walk on the beach or something else that allows you to move and be lost in thought

  
Time

There is always time for matters to you. If you don’t have the time, then either it does not matter to you as much as you thought it did, or it does not matter as much as other things in your life.

People always make time for what matters. People who have 5 kids still manage to spend time with all their children if they make it a priority. Some moms manage to make it to the gym a week or two after giving birth because being fit is a priority. Some people don’t go out after 9 because sleep is a priority. I have seen people in their late thirties still out partying and hitting bars until 5am before they go home and shower to go to work, because to them partying is a priority. And there is always the people who never have any time but never miss an episode of any of their 35 TV shows they watch every week. This just means, they think TV is more important then other goals. Their real goal is to spend their live watching TV.

One of the keys to having a enough time to make it something you truly want and be able to do it in a way you enjoy. If you hate to run, making a fitness goal that makes it so you have to run everyday, is not likely to succeed. But if you love swimming, bike rides, or hikes, and plan for those, you will be more driven to do what you love then to do what you don’t.

 
 
Where are you going?

Now that you know where you are, you can figure out where you want to be.
It is a new year, a time known for new years resolutions, a time in which millions of people make near impossible claims then forget about them in a month.

You probably already have some ideas about what you want. You know how much money you want to make, what relationship you want, what size pants you want to fit into, what new toys you want buy, what emotional blocks you want to work on, what new experiences you want to try, and the other things you are looking to create in your life.

But maybe you set them every year and don’t make them, or maybe you forget about them, or maybe you manage to accomplish the goals you set. If you manage to accomplish them, great job! If not, here are some ideas of ideas to help you in your goal setting.

  • Pick a theme
  • Pick clear goals you can measure.
  • Don’t make your goals dependent on someone else
  • Make your goals realistic but add stretch goals if you feel the need.
  • List all your goals, and then break them down into what you would need to do each month to hit your target. (I use excel for this). Print them off and put them on the wall, and check them off with the date completed.
  • Pick what is important to you

For 2009, I managed to do 8 of my 9 goals I set out for. The 9th one I was 2 pounds away from hitting (yes it was a weight goal). I will be listing out my goals and sharing what I hit and how I did this year soon.

In the next couple days, I will be posting my 2010 goals, and I will explain this list in more detail and how to implement it with real life examples.

Adrienne :)

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