The Importance of Change

Change is all around us whether we like it or not. A few days ago I talked about how to cope with change if you don’t like to run head on into it like I do. Some of the emails I got asked, why not fight it because it you might be able to stop it. Change is hard. Change is worth fighting.

Change is change, it is neither good nor bad. It is only outcome that can be perceived as good or bad. Sometimes change is worth fighting. The issue is are you fighting change just because it is change or because you truly think bad things can come of it The trick is to figure out why you really are resisting change.

Are you resting change because:

  • Change is always bad
  • You fear change
  • The outcome of change might be bad
  • It disrupts status quo
  • It sets a bad precedent
  • It’s new
  • It’s different
  • It creates a slippery slope

Change is a part of our lives. Everything changes. Think about it. Weather, where we are in our galactic year, growing up, eating solid food, new food, getting out of diapers, learning to drive, going to school, finishing school, going to work, starting a business, having kids, dating, having a significant other, getting a pet, going on vacation, and even the stars change everyday.

We live in a world that survives because of change. We cope with it, fight it, or just ride it out.

Weather for example. It changes a lot over a course of a year and even more if you count the amount of weather all over the world. It the fact the seasons change bad? No. However, some people view the consequences as bad such as having to drive in the snow, or lots of rain, or too hot to go outside and play. Lets look at the other side.

Lots of snow is fun for skiing, snowboarding, and snow tubing. I can build snowmen, make snow angels, and pound my friends and family with snow balls. I can make snow forts, create epic snow wars, and at the end come in to some hot chocolate.

Rain. So many people hate the rain. I love it. Not just because it waters plants, gives us water, and fills lakes, but because it is fun. Jumping in puddles, playing in the rain, doing a rain dance, watching a lighting storm, and reading a book while listening to the rain fall are all things I enjoy when it is raining. Yes, I still play in the rain.

Summer and the heat that comes with it is perfect for water fights, water balloons, swimming, beaches, surprising kids with a hose, washing cars, growing a garden, and slip and slide. Sure, it’s hot, but it makes the water feel all that good.

A more practical example is relationships. All relationships are change. First you’re not in a relationship then you are. This requires changes to your routine, your plans, and your life.

At first the changes are minor, so they aren’t so scary nor so intimidating. As a relationship gets more serious you get a lot of changes many which are perceived as good and many which can be perceived as bad.

Good changes often include

  • Sex
  • Love
  • Splitting chores
  • Splitting rent
  • Gain a friend
  • Gain a confidant
  • Someone to cook for or with
  • The dating game being moved to the side
  • Waking up with someone (more tie into sex of course :D )
  • Someone who depends on you
  • And a million more

Bad changes:

  • Sharing finances
  • Harder to get away
  • Someone who depends on you
  • Giving up bathroom space
  • Giving up closet space
  • Living with someone
  • And a million more

Each of these changes really could be bad or good. If you look to cook for people, then having someone to cook for is nice. If you are a stickler when it comes to how a closet is organized, having someone use half your closet can be a hard. Each of these is based on your own perceptions as is all change. Would is be silly to avoid relationships all together because you did not want to have to share a bathroom?

Change is what you make of it. You chose to choose how to react. You grumble about the snow and how you have to plow, or go outside and enjoy it. When was the last time you had a good snow fight?

Some change is worth fighting and some change is worth helping to bring about. I don’t roll with every punch. Trying to solve world hunger is a change I want to be part of while giving too much power to the US executive branch is something I want to fight.

Get over the fear of change and look at how it truly affects your life and the lives of those around you. Don’t make a choice to fight over fear, but make a conscious choice as to what you want, and then bring that change about. It comes down yet again to surfing the wave, instead of being running, being afraid, or digging your heels in.

Adrienne :)

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4 Responses to “The Importance of Change”

  1. Jiri Novotny says:

    Great post Adrienne.

    Rain rocks! :D

  2. Adrienne says:

    Thanks Jiri! I do love the rain. Every time it rains, i my whole house does a rain dance!

    Adrienne :)

  3. Jiri Novotny says:

    I love running in the rain :) . I can’t do it bare here though :( , I need to save for a house in the mountains. Gosh, I would love to have a cottage behind waterfall in a rainforest in the mountains :D

    When I started my business – after two months of waiting my first order came – it was raining – and I went out and ran like mad, screaming, I’ve just seen my new life before me. That was the happiest experience in my life :)

  4. Adrienne says:

    I know what you mean. I love to run in the rain. You are describing my dream place. I want to live in the moutains with a beach down the hill. With lots of trees and i waterfall so big it has caves behind it that i can go into it.

    That is awesome. Great job on starting a buiness and staying with it. I have seen your products and i think they rock. :)

    Adrienne :)

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